Difficult by Judith R Smith
Difficult by Judith R Smith

REAL STORIES, RESEARCH AND REFLECTION FOR MOTHERS

You are not the only mother living this.

This isn't a book about fixing your child. It's about you — the mother who has carried this, largely on your own, in a conversation that has too often left you out.

MORE THAN A BOOK

The research that shaped Difficult didn't stop at the page. For the past three years, Judith has drawn on that same work to facilitate support groups for mothers living this exact experience — real, live spaces to stop carrying it alone.

Through the book and those early groups, it became clear that fathers were navigating this too, often with even fewer places to turn. In recognition of that growing need, Judith launched a support group for fathers as well, co-facilitated by Jeffrey Hoffeld, LP.

You Don't Have to Do This Alone

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Judith facilitates small, confidential 10-week virtual groups for mothers and fathers of adult children living with serious mental illness or substance use disorder — real peer support grounded in her own research and clinical practice.
Mothers' Group
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Fathers' Group
Starts October 8th. Co-facilitated by Jeffrey Hoffeld, LP.
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"I realized I'm not really to blame for my son's serious mental illness. I was a good mom."
— Diane, 63
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ABOUT THE BOOK

A story too many keep secret

Difficult tells the real stories of mothers whose adult children are struggling with mental illness, substance use, or chronic instability — and shows that this hidden, isolating experience is far more common than anyone admits. Drawn from years of research interviewing dozens of women, the book pairs their stories with reflection questions to help you make sense of your own journey.

This fine book will be profoundly helpful to all the women who needed it yesterday... it is excellent cultural therapy.
— MARY PIPHER — Author of Reviving Ophelia and Women Rowing North
Dr. Smith blends the latest research with rich interviews with mothers, capturing the chronic stress they experience and highlighting where practitioners, and society at large, can help.
— Karl Pillemer, PhD — Professor of Human Development, Cornell University

MORE PRAISE FOR DIFFICULT

Difficult made me realize that so many mothers struggle as I did, and that there is not one right answer for everyone... I thought this book was extremely helpful and a must read.
— Eve Goldberg — Founder of BigVision.org

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MEET THE AUTHOR

Judith R Smith

Judith writes from decades of professional practice, working closely alongside mothers navigating the hardest version of parenthood no one prepares you for.

Difficult is the book she wishes she could have handed them years ago.

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